Ladder Theory

I am still not very happy with what happened yesterday. Someone intentionally closed the window to spite me when I wasn't even doing anything wrong. There were other people in the situation, I was actually doing what I was supposed to be doing here at work, and told him such, but apparently that does not matter because he still went and closed this out anyway. This itself is not important, but it is the principle of the matter. This is just a blog post and can be rewritten fairly quickly, it's not a huge deal (though I had a lot of great ideas and now can't remember a lot of what I said because it was yesterday and I was so mad), but if it had been something really important like a homework assignment and he had closed it then what would I have done? I think it is low, especially since he took his frustration or whatever he wants to call it out on me. I just think it was rude and not funny and trust is definitely lacking now. But whatever, his loss.

Now on to more important things now: Ladder Theory.

If you still have not read Ladder Theory then you need to because regardless what any men or women might say about it, a lot of it actually seems to be true. I am not saying I agree with the entire thing right down to the very last idea, but there are two basic concepts that are at the core of this theory: 1) some women are naive to think that men and women can always remain just friends and 2) all men ever think about is sex. Period. Sorry kiddos, it's common knowledge, you can't deny it, it is what makes men and women fundamentally different. Granted, there are guys who enjoy hanging out with women who are just their friends, and there are women who like to have sex as much as guys, but it just doesn't happen quite as often that way.

This post is basically coming about because a few days ago I was informed I was what the site refers to as an Intellectual Pimp. (In this specific case the guy who told me this was referring to my friendship with Teetz, because he lives on Teetz's floor and sees us together all the time. However, throughout the rest of this, I am not specifically referring to Teetz, because he is not my only guy friend in the world, nor am I even really referring to my guy friends at all, but guys in general. Also, this theory doesn't even apply to Teetz and me because anyone who knows us well knows that most of our time is spent arguing anyway and that our situation is different from most male/female friendships). This really got me to think about all my guy friends and if they were Intellectual Whores or not, and if this really was true. I have concluded that while the core principles are pretty true, it is okay, because guys will be guys. It doesn't mean anything if they want to have sex with you, they do because they are guys and simply programmed to think that all the time. It also does not actually mean that all my guy friends want to have sex with me because I don't believe that part is true, I think guys and girls can be friends, even though this does go against the theory and the guy writing it would call me stupid and naive. Apparently though, this theory then also makes me a bitch because I have my guy friends who I use for entertainment, my amusement, intelligent conversation, etc, yet I still go off and date the assholes and Outlaw Bikers who offer nothing really except alcohol and sex. Confusing, isn't it?

However, this also got me thinking about male/female friendships and I wonder why sometimes they actually work so well. I have always had more guy friends than girl friends, mostly because girls are psycho and dramatic and bitchy and I can hardly handle myself sometimes, let alone a ton of girls just like me. Thus, I was friends with boys. I was content remaining this way through college, though I did join a sorority where a lot of the girls shared my viewpoint to begin with, but we are still psycho and dramatic, so it kind of defeated the purpose. But anyway. Maybe sometimes guys and girls are friends because they want the relationship without actually having one, if that makes sense. Like, you go places together, eat together, buy stuff for each other, and generally people who don't know you assume you're dating (which may or may not be something you want, I don't know, you may not even realize you are projecting that image), without all the fuzzy feelings, analyzing every small thing the other person said that might lead you to believe a break up is on the horizon, etc. This works out great for some people, but there is also the lack of physical contact then, i.e. NO SEX. That is, unless you have the friends-with-benefits thing going on, which is an entirely different case. I am not talking about friends-with-benefits here though, because in those situations you don't have all the other stuff, like the BEING NICE TO EACH OTHER (that would be a pointed reference to The Ex for those that missed it).

I don't know, at this point I have been at work for the last three hours and have been working on this sporadically throughout that time. I am not sure if I repeated myself, if I started editing sentences and forgot to finish, if I have incomplete thoughts, whatever. I don't know what my point is or if I really made it even. Maybe I just feel like babbling, and we all know I like to hear myself talk, or in this case see myself talk. One thing I do disagree with in Ladder Theory is the statements that if a guy is nice to a girl, he just wants to have sex with her. There is the variable of human decency which he is then suggesting guys do not have if the theory was absolute. Nothing is absolute however, so some guys can be nice just for the sake of being nice. However, those guys might be hard to find, so pretty much here is what I have to say in closing:

Women: Continue to be Intellectual Pimps, a lot guys deserve it.
Men: You will be Intellectual Whores and you will like it. Consider yourself lucky you even get to be an Intellectual Whore to a hott woman at all, because some of you do not deserve it.